What Not to Do...

Hello Everyone! I know it's been a few weeks since I last wrote anything. I have good reason for this. I have had so much going on lately that I haven't found any time to sit down and get my thoughts together. But this week I wanted to talk about some recent things that I have experienced in the dating world...basically WHAT NOT TO DO! Some of the things that have happened in my dating world have literally just blown me away so I wanted to share them with all my readers! Just so that I spare you the drama...I will cut to the chase..and we will call this post "What Not to Do"...and I'm sorry fellas but this one is for you!

1st Scenario:  This guy and I make plans to go on a date for the following week. He's texting me throughout the week to make sure we are still on, and of course I'm still interested in going. He tells me he gets out of work at 4 and we would meet up after work. I rearrange my schedule at work so that I too get out at 4. The day of the date comes. He texts me tells me where to meet him. I get out of work, go to the restaurant, and wait....and wait...and wait. My limit for waiting for ANYONE is usually about 30mins. He didn't text to tell me he was going to be late until 4:30. Now this is a BIG NO NO in my book. So I left. He's since called to reschedule, and of course I have my reservations. Lesson: Fellas if your going to be late, let us know right away, don't wait until we are already at the restaurant!


2nd Scenario: I meet this guy at the mall about a month and a half ago. He approaches me and tells me that he would like to take me out to lunch. He was very polite and so I gave him my number. It takes him a month to actually make plans with me. He texted me several times, but never asked. I intentionally never asked about the date because I wanted to give him the chance to plan something. So eventually he says "I would like to see you" and obviously my response was "What would you like to do?" and he says "First I would like to see that smile". I responded "lol"...because I was literally laughing out loud. Lesson: Fellas do NOT ask a girl on a date if you are not planning on taking her any time soon. What's the point of waiting a month? And if you do want to take a girl out on a date...your only plan cannot be just to see her smile!!! It's 2012...let's get creative!

To end this on a good note....

3rd Scenario: Thank you to the nice gentleman I met last weekend who I've since had dinner and breakfast with :)  Good times!


 xoxoxo

Next week's topic...Turn offs! So email me or send me a facebook message with your biggest turn offs! That is for ladies and gents. :)

Captain and Coke= A Good Time ;)

**All names have been altered to protect privacy**

Last week, myself and my friend Roxanne, went on sort of a double date. We met up with an acquittance of ours, we'll call him Ronny, and his roommate, "Jack", at a local restaurant. The purpose of the date was so that Ronny and I could introduce Roxanne to Jack. When Roxanne and I got to the restaurant, we sat at a dinner table and ordered a few drinks. I already know Ronny, so my goal was for Roxanne and I to get to get to know Jack. But this was like pulling teeth. I mean, he seemed like a nice guy, but he didn't say much, and when he did it was so depressing. He didn't have much conversation so I resorted to asking him every and any question I could possibly think of. Where are you from? What do you do? What are your hobbies? His answers were very dull and sometimes made me kind of sad...aren't we suppose to be having fun here? I could not find anything interesting about this guy. I mean, he was attractive but just did not have much of a personality. He wasn't giving me anything to work with! I knew right away that Roxanne was not into him. He didn't ask us anything or even try to get to know her. It could have been that he wasn't interested, but everyone else seemed to be having a good time expect for him. Eventually, after he had SEVERAL Captain and Coke's he became human. He was dancing, singing, and even bought us a drink. I was shocked, and I thought he was actually fun, but too bad Roxanne did not! First things first, if you have to get drunk to have fun, then there is a problem there. I want to extend my assistance to Jack...you know who you are! I think you are a nice guy, and maybe I can be your "dating coach". I do charge a fee! lol

Tips for handling a bad date:

1. It's always good to try out double dates, although that's not always possible.

2. I ALWAYS do this, even when I'm bored with friends, I just talk about myself non stop. What else are you going to do? If he/she is boring...just talk about yourself without getting too personal. Talk about your life, things you like to do, where you are from, etc.

3.Cut it short. Don't be afraid to have dinner, drinks and leave. You are not obligated to sit through a terrible date. Don't be rude about it, just end it politely and move on !

4. Ask the person lots of questions. Try to get to know them even if they don't want to open up immediately. Granted, people are shy and often don't date, so take control of the date while your there.

5. I always suggest doing something fun on your first date with someone. Instead of going out to dinner, go bowling, go to bar with live music, trivia, etc. Doing something active and fun on a date can help break the monotony of the date...in other words, if you get bored you'll have something to keep you entertained! 

xoxoxo