Captain and Coke= A Good Time ;)

**All names have been altered to protect privacy**

Last week, myself and my friend Roxanne, went on sort of a double date. We met up with an acquittance of ours, we'll call him Ronny, and his roommate, "Jack", at a local restaurant. The purpose of the date was so that Ronny and I could introduce Roxanne to Jack. When Roxanne and I got to the restaurant, we sat at a dinner table and ordered a few drinks. I already know Ronny, so my goal was for Roxanne and I to get to get to know Jack. But this was like pulling teeth. I mean, he seemed like a nice guy, but he didn't say much, and when he did it was so depressing. He didn't have much conversation so I resorted to asking him every and any question I could possibly think of. Where are you from? What do you do? What are your hobbies? His answers were very dull and sometimes made me kind of sad...aren't we suppose to be having fun here? I could not find anything interesting about this guy. I mean, he was attractive but just did not have much of a personality. He wasn't giving me anything to work with! I knew right away that Roxanne was not into him. He didn't ask us anything or even try to get to know her. It could have been that he wasn't interested, but everyone else seemed to be having a good time expect for him. Eventually, after he had SEVERAL Captain and Coke's he became human. He was dancing, singing, and even bought us a drink. I was shocked, and I thought he was actually fun, but too bad Roxanne did not! First things first, if you have to get drunk to have fun, then there is a problem there. I want to extend my assistance to Jack...you know who you are! I think you are a nice guy, and maybe I can be your "dating coach". I do charge a fee! lol

Tips for handling a bad date:

1. It's always good to try out double dates, although that's not always possible.

2. I ALWAYS do this, even when I'm bored with friends, I just talk about myself non stop. What else are you going to do? If he/she is boring...just talk about yourself without getting too personal. Talk about your life, things you like to do, where you are from, etc.

3.Cut it short. Don't be afraid to have dinner, drinks and leave. You are not obligated to sit through a terrible date. Don't be rude about it, just end it politely and move on !

4. Ask the person lots of questions. Try to get to know them even if they don't want to open up immediately. Granted, people are shy and often don't date, so take control of the date while your there.

5. I always suggest doing something fun on your first date with someone. Instead of going out to dinner, go bowling, go to bar with live music, trivia, etc. Doing something active and fun on a date can help break the monotony of the date...in other words, if you get bored you'll have something to keep you entertained! 

xoxoxo