What Not to Do...

Hello Everyone! I know it's been a few weeks since I last wrote anything. I have good reason for this. I have had so much going on lately that I haven't found any time to sit down and get my thoughts together. But this week I wanted to talk about some recent things that I have experienced in the dating world...basically WHAT NOT TO DO! Some of the things that have happened in my dating world have literally just blown me away so I wanted to share them with all my readers! Just so that I spare you the drama...I will cut to the chase..and we will call this post "What Not to Do"...and I'm sorry fellas but this one is for you!

1st Scenario:  This guy and I make plans to go on a date for the following week. He's texting me throughout the week to make sure we are still on, and of course I'm still interested in going. He tells me he gets out of work at 4 and we would meet up after work. I rearrange my schedule at work so that I too get out at 4. The day of the date comes. He texts me tells me where to meet him. I get out of work, go to the restaurant, and wait....and wait...and wait. My limit for waiting for ANYONE is usually about 30mins. He didn't text to tell me he was going to be late until 4:30. Now this is a BIG NO NO in my book. So I left. He's since called to reschedule, and of course I have my reservations. Lesson: Fellas if your going to be late, let us know right away, don't wait until we are already at the restaurant!


2nd Scenario: I meet this guy at the mall about a month and a half ago. He approaches me and tells me that he would like to take me out to lunch. He was very polite and so I gave him my number. It takes him a month to actually make plans with me. He texted me several times, but never asked. I intentionally never asked about the date because I wanted to give him the chance to plan something. So eventually he says "I would like to see you" and obviously my response was "What would you like to do?" and he says "First I would like to see that smile". I responded "lol"...because I was literally laughing out loud. Lesson: Fellas do NOT ask a girl on a date if you are not planning on taking her any time soon. What's the point of waiting a month? And if you do want to take a girl out on a date...your only plan cannot be just to see her smile!!! It's 2012...let's get creative!

To end this on a good note....

3rd Scenario: Thank you to the nice gentleman I met last weekend who I've since had dinner and breakfast with :)  Good times!


 xoxoxo

Next week's topic...Turn offs! So email me or send me a facebook message with your biggest turn offs! That is for ladies and gents. :)

Captain and Coke= A Good Time ;)

**All names have been altered to protect privacy**

Last week, myself and my friend Roxanne, went on sort of a double date. We met up with an acquittance of ours, we'll call him Ronny, and his roommate, "Jack", at a local restaurant. The purpose of the date was so that Ronny and I could introduce Roxanne to Jack. When Roxanne and I got to the restaurant, we sat at a dinner table and ordered a few drinks. I already know Ronny, so my goal was for Roxanne and I to get to get to know Jack. But this was like pulling teeth. I mean, he seemed like a nice guy, but he didn't say much, and when he did it was so depressing. He didn't have much conversation so I resorted to asking him every and any question I could possibly think of. Where are you from? What do you do? What are your hobbies? His answers were very dull and sometimes made me kind of sad...aren't we suppose to be having fun here? I could not find anything interesting about this guy. I mean, he was attractive but just did not have much of a personality. He wasn't giving me anything to work with! I knew right away that Roxanne was not into him. He didn't ask us anything or even try to get to know her. It could have been that he wasn't interested, but everyone else seemed to be having a good time expect for him. Eventually, after he had SEVERAL Captain and Coke's he became human. He was dancing, singing, and even bought us a drink. I was shocked, and I thought he was actually fun, but too bad Roxanne did not! First things first, if you have to get drunk to have fun, then there is a problem there. I want to extend my assistance to Jack...you know who you are! I think you are a nice guy, and maybe I can be your "dating coach". I do charge a fee! lol

Tips for handling a bad date:

1. It's always good to try out double dates, although that's not always possible.

2. I ALWAYS do this, even when I'm bored with friends, I just talk about myself non stop. What else are you going to do? If he/she is boring...just talk about yourself without getting too personal. Talk about your life, things you like to do, where you are from, etc.

3.Cut it short. Don't be afraid to have dinner, drinks and leave. You are not obligated to sit through a terrible date. Don't be rude about it, just end it politely and move on !

4. Ask the person lots of questions. Try to get to know them even if they don't want to open up immediately. Granted, people are shy and often don't date, so take control of the date while your there.

5. I always suggest doing something fun on your first date with someone. Instead of going out to dinner, go bowling, go to bar with live music, trivia, etc. Doing something active and fun on a date can help break the monotony of the date...in other words, if you get bored you'll have something to keep you entertained! 

xoxoxo

And if at First You Don't Succeed....

In 2010, it seemed like every other week I was going on a date. I actually kept count! Now, recently I have been trying to remember where I met all of my dates. I quickly realized it was because I was in school, going to the gym, working three jobs, and going out with friends more often. Basically it was because I KEPT BUSY! Now, I work and hangout with friends, but mostly my family, and I will occasionally find myself wondering into the gym. When I finished school and settled down into my profession, I found it was harder to meet men. I mean, back then I wasn't even trying...I was just always out and about so it was inevitable. And I was committed to having fun and not taking anyone serious...none of those dates ever led to a second date...and that was by choice!

Most of the dates I went on were so much fun, and then there were those dates that I just wanted to run away SCREAMING! But I survived them all and overall enjoyed myself..because that is what dating is about...having FUN with the opposite sex.

PAUSE!....I did stop dating for nearly a year because of a bad experience I had. I knew that it was time for a break. So, I totally understand how a bad experience can prevent you from wanting to try again. It can be tough! Don't let anyone force you into dating if you don't want to...you have to take time to yourself and be ready for it. After that experience, I started to date myself...which meant doing things alone in order to learn more about me. And it was only until then that I was ready to start again...So ladies and gents...if at first you don't succeed dust yourself off and try again...when your ready that is <3  And so I am ready to start again and hope to encourage you to do the same!

UPDATE :)

Now, over the weekend I was at the mall...minding my own business, when a very polite young man said that he remembered me from high school...and withing minutes of the conversation invited me to lunch. He was very polite and so I gave him my number...So ladies and gents...I'll be adding 'The Mall' to my list of places to meet the opposite sex :) I'll keep you posted about the date!

love yxo

Excuse My English!

I am not the BEST writer...but I do always keep it real ! I wanted to let you all know that I will be writing weekly about my dating experiences throughout 2012! Today, I reached out to many of my guy friends...I wanted to know where they thought women could meet men. I posted this on my facebook page today...

'ATTENTION ALL FRIENDS: MY FRIEND AND I ARE STARTING TO GO ON DOUBLE DATES! WE ARE LOOKING FOR A PAIR OF NICE GUYS WHO ARE LOOKING TO MEET CLASSY, YET SEXY WOMEN! PLEASE INBOX ME IF YOU KNOW ANYONE THAT MAY BE INTERESTED...PLEASE MAKE SURE THESE MEN ARE OF QUALITY! THANK YOU.'

The responses I got varied...some thought I was crazy, and others actually responded! This is great! AND guess what? In less than 24 hours I got two dates! One double and one single date! Looking forward to going out! Ill keep you posted :)

I won't be putting anyones name on here for privacy reasons...but I will be talking about my experience!A friend and I also will be going 'Speed Dating'! I'm looking forward to this too! It will be my first time!

In a few days I will be talking about the lessons I learned from my past experiences with dating and what I plan on taking with me during these two dates!

  I hope my experience can encourage you all to get out there and start dating!

<3

 

 

 

Taking Risks

Welcome!!! I decided to start a blog about dating for SEVERAL REASONS!!

1. I recently went through a break up and I wanted to get back into the dating scene. During this relationship, I felt like I was the only one in it...I know you've all been there before!! So it was time for me to venture out and meet new people! But I had one question...Where? Where will I meet a guy who at my age, is on the same page as I am? I mean, I'm young, fun, and educated...this was going to be rough.
2. So many of my friends and family members are single and AFRAID TO DATE. They are either too picky, too scared, or have never been on a date in their entire lives. I've been on many many dates, and had a lot of fun. I've done some things that I would never have been able to do if I was not dating. But this was not enough to convince my friends to start dating. Many of my friends have had terrible experiences dating when they met guys online or at a club...so again brings up the question...Where? Where can a good girl meet a good guy?
3. I wanted to have a place where I can talk about my dating experiences in hopes to come up with a list of places where 'boy meets girl'.

I first started with asking friends where they typically go to meet girls or guys...and the one guy that responded..said the CLUB? ...We will leave that for another day !